Are you a bboy that's lonely and single on Valentine's Day? Do you ever wonder why bgirls avoid you like the plague? Well, here are some do's and don'ts on how to not to get on the bgirls' creeper list 💔(yes, there is one and we're constantly sharing and adding to it)
✖️DON'T: Immediately approach a new bgirl at practice and offer a fully-guided personal training regimen.
We get it. You want to be welcoming, or maybe she's just extra cute, but offering your expert bboy advice on how to do a 6-step can be a little overwhelming. Not to mention, many girls are already wary of ulterior motives whenever guys are slobbering all over her. On the off-chance that this new female at practice is actually an experienced bgirl, you might also end up looking a little foolish when she busts out in windmills that are better than yours after you offer to teach her how to invert.
✖️DON'T: Be that guy that always takes his shirt off the second a girl walks into the room
Yes, we notice you glancing our way to see if we're looking. We're looking all right, but only because you're so obnoxious and obvious. We honestly don't care about your muscles. We're here to train.
✖️DON'T: Send awkward creeper Facebook messages.
It's not even so much the friend requests from guys we've never met before, although it does raise a red flag. We took a chance accepting this friend request because we have faith that you were genuinely trying to connect with a fellow dancer and that's a reason why we're part of a community. But dude, "do you have a bf?" and other similar messages totally make us roll our eyes, especially when we've never even met you. I can't begin to tell you how many times I've been in a fb conversation with a guy, and the conversation's going well, and all of a sudden, it gets ruined because it all becomes clear why they messaged you in the first place.
✔️DO: Go up to a new face, introduce yourself, let it be known that you're always open for questions, and then walk away and give the person some space.
In general, I think this is good advice for any new person, guy or girl, and whether you think this person is cute or not. As a new person at practice, you want to feel welcomed, but not put on the spot. Some people take a little longer to open up and feel less shy to try things. Occasionally checking in on them throughout practice is also fine, especially if they're there alone. Even for a not-so-new person, it's never a good idea to suffocate them and keep telling them what they should or shouldn’t do.
✔️DO: Treat girls like normal human beings and not objects to be won over.
These aren't hard and fast rules, nor are they all conclusive, but it's a start. Basically, all I'm saying is that girls can detect a try-hard from a mile away and trust me, it's not attractive. If you treat and talk to us like you would any other human being, we'll return the favor.
We think these are common courtesy but these are just a few of the many things we see that are still needed to be said to all the thirsty boys from any discipline and background.